I have the right!

It is not often that we get the opportunity to take the time out just to appreciate what we have achieved in our lives. Many of us can slip into an emotional rut , the trick is finding a way out.

I hope the following tips might help you think about your individual rights.

YOUR INDIVIDUAL RIGHTS

I have the right to decline responsibility for other peoples problems.
But is that unkind, selfish or uncaring? The trouble is that some people feel that everybody problems are their concern. Sometimes we need to stop and think why we take on board so many other problems and not deal with our own.

I have the right to ask for what I want.
Many people spend their lives going along with others and what other people tell them they want. We settle for things we do not want, for something that is not quite right, because we do not feel we have the right to protest. It is useful to remind yourself of what you want in life and not what others want for you.

I have a right to change my mind.
As you look more closely at decision making, you will see that you make some decisions for the wrong reasons. A wrong decision brings regret, and then we try to think of ways of getting out of the wrong decision.

I have the right to say that I don't understand.
I think we have all experienced this at some point in our life. We sit in a room filled with people and don't understand the main subject of the conversation, yet we choose not to say anything.

I have the right to be treated with respect as an intelligent capable and equal human being.
Self-respect and self-worth both mean the same thing - do you respect yourself? And if you do not, then look for the reasons why.

I have the right to express my feelings.
Assertiveness training is learning to recognise what you are feeling at the time. There are three aspects to expressing your feelings, recognising and identifying them, accepting rather than denying them, and then choosing to express them appropriately.

I have a right to express my opinions and values.
This means that you have the right to your own opinions even if they stand in disagreement with those of the majority. It is not a question of right or wrong, but differences in perception.

I have the right to say 'yes' or 'no' for myself.
Making a choice for yourself because you want something or do not want something becomes more difficult when you have other roles to fulfil.

I have the right to make mistakes.
If someone points out that we have made a mistake, we seem to think that we are stupid. So what if you have made a mistake, learn to shrug your shoulders and get on with it. Too many of us become defensive or go into a pit of despair.

I have the right to deal with others without being dependent on their approval.
This is what tends to hold so many people back from stating their needs, expressing their feelings, standing up for their rights and refusing what they really want. This is because they cannot tolerate the other persons anticipated disapproval. What will they think of me?

"Enjoy your weekend"

Sharon Roberts

Motivational Business specialist.